When you start seeing a new man, those butterfly feelings are addicting.While you want to play it cool and not show your feelings far too soon or far too fast, you can help but wonder what makes a man fall in love? After so many failed relationships, it’s normal to feel anxious when a could-be relationship is going seemingly well.It might seem a simple way to define how to keep a man, but most of the time, it boils down to feeling comfortable.The need for commitment arises from an emotional need deep inside a man.
Your partner didn't cheat on you, treat you poorly, call you "crazy" or make you feel small. You're not showering your partner in affection like you used to. It makes you feel guilty -- immensely, soul-crushingly, heart-stoppingly guilty.
Nobody knows how quickly "some day" will arrive, if ever. Your partner has no clue what's happening inside your heart. You can't help but wonder where the hell this apathy came from. You don't want to feel so much nothingness toward someone who once made you feel like anything was possible.
Sometimes, it comes sooner and more unexpectedly than you think, and other times, it slowly creeps up on you and envelops you not in anger, or in hatred or in sadness -- but in apathy. He or she doesn't notice you behaving negatively, giving attitude or acting in a way that would offer any sort of an inkling about how you're feeling about the relationship. Where did it all go -- your infatuation, your lust, your giddiness, your desire to impress, to please, to take care of, to love? You want so badly to feel that love again, to experience that giddiness and wholeness you once felt. You rack your brain and wonder if something happened that made you feel this way.
But part of why a man will stay isn’t just how emotionally vulnerable he feels when he’s in your company, but in how mature your are in your feelings, too.
After all, your emotions and how you communicate them have tremendous power.
They have the power to instantly reconnect you and a man, and they have the power to push him away in no time flat.