Dating with an expiration date
One of my favorite young couples has stayed together despite going to college in distant cities and working in separate cities for two years after that. Julie, the medical student, opted for “couples matching.” This means she and her boyfriend will be sent to the best program both of them get into.
Because she’s a stronger student than he is, she’s likely to wind up in Little Rock or Birmingham rather than a world-class hospital. Dating is hell, and one of the things people love best about getting into a relationship is going off the market. Learning to compromise, empathize, and put someone else’s well being front and center takes practice.
It’s no longer enough to meet someone you click with – you have to meet someone whose life trajectory is compatible as well.
Often promising relationships come with an expiration date.
You check it out, reading the enticing ingredients and knowing everyone in the office is going to go berserk at the sight of it!
You glance unsuspectingly at the expiration date and the perfect image shatters—this salad expires today!
I got together with my husband precisely one year before we graduated with our MBAs.
We made the decision to only look for jobs in the same city.
You’ll learn what you have to offer a partner, and what you need in return. Even if it doesn’t last forever, it helps shape you as a future partner for someone else.3. Being introduced to someone else’s family, friends and interests is a wonderful time of discovery and learning.All the middling scenarios include the usual false starts, misunderstandings, incompatibilities, douchebaggery, and getting dumped. We understand rationally that our loved one may get hit by a bus tomorrow, yet we don’t hesitate to jump in because the odds sound reasonable. Conversely, most of us count couples among our acquaintances who made it against all odds.