Dating immediately after divorce
We stopped cheerleading and became more of a negotiator, or even antagonist.Listen to yourself as you talk about the relationship as well.How have they accepted their own responsibility for the divorce. Walking away from a marriage is hard work, and the way someone tells their divorce story is important. You’d think that if someone is dating again that they are ready for a relationship. You’d even imagine, that someone who puts up a dating profile online, and who talks about what they want in their next relationship, probably has some intention of being in a relationship. I have been on quite a few dates where the woman had no idea what they wanted.Even if the divorce was the result of some infidelity, have they been able to move beyond the anger? I had one woman, who I connected with and had just spent nearly two hours talking to, tell me in the parking lot as she was getting into her car, “I can tell you at least three reasons I’m not right for you.” She didn’t, but she said she knew she had no real idea of what she wanted in a relationship.If the person doesn’t really open up until a glass of wine or two, you might be rubbing up against someone who has a hard time expressing themselves.
It’s likely this is how any future conflict with you might evolve, as well. At least at this point in my life, while they are still in school, and still very much under my influence.
And if you can’t articulate what you are looking for, if your vague, or simply lonely, you might want to keep working on yourself, and your approach to relationships before jumping right back into one.